Second Life obsessed parents starve two-year-old child

 

 

Online gaming Is fun and an escape from reality, but when it becomes your reality at the expense of you family Its an issue that needs to be dealt with. When it becomes life threatening then its a crime. No child should be neglected because you cant drag yourself away from the computer to see to their basic needs.

US couple obsessed with a video game have allegedly let daughter starve

 

A Couple have been accused of starving their two-year-old daughter after becoming obsessed with the online video game Second Life.

Mark Knapp, 48, and wife, Elizabeth Pester, 33, from Tulsa, USA, were charged with child neglect and abuse after the girl was rushed to hospital weighing just 5.8 kilograms. The average two-year-old should weigh between ten and fifteen kilograms, depending on their height.

The girl was admitted to St Francis Hospital in a critical condition on Tuesday, with detective Denielle Bishop telling Newson6 that on top of being severely underweight, she could not walk, move or talk.

“My gut feeling is the child probably never left the apartment” she said.

“She can’t walk, they claim that she can crawl, the back of her head is completely flat.”

Hospital staff alerted authorities after Knapp and Pester told them they would be back on Thursday to check on the girl, despite living just around the corner. When local police arrived at the house, Knapp reportedly asked them if they were there because their daughter died. They were found playing Second Life.

The couple are previously known to authorities, having had their daughter taken from them in June 2012 for being underweight. She was returned to them in July 2012 on the condition that she would attend weekly weigh-ins, which did not happen.

Pester, whose avatar is a blonde DJ, allegedly rescheduled her daughter’s appointments around her performances as a virtual DJ in Second Life.

The couple are being held in Tulsa county jail on a US$50,000 bond each. The little girl is still in hospital in a critical condition.

The case is eerily similar to the 2010 case involving Korean couple Kim Yoo-chul and Choi Mi-sun, who raised an avatar baby through their profiles on a Second Life-style game called PRIUS. They were both charged with child abuse and neglect when their obsession with another world lead to their real daughter dying at three months of age.

Childhood Cruelty to Animals: Breaking the Cycle of Abuse

Teachers, daycare providers, humane educators, youth group leaders, and others who work with children may come across a young person who has witnessed or perpetrated an act of animal cruelty. Here, you can learn more about childhood cruelty to animals, the link between animal cruelty and violence toward people, and find out how to report animal abuse and intervene on behalf of children and families at risk.

As an educator, why should I be concerned about childhood cruelty to animals?

It is well documented that animal cruelty is a sign of serious psychological distress. It often indicates that a child has either experienced violence first-hand or is at risk of becoming violent toward people. Many studies in psychology, criminology, and sociology have demonstrated that violent offenders frequently have  childhood and adolescent histories of serious and repeated animal cruelty. As early as the 1970’s, the FBI’s analysis of the lives of serial killers revealed that most had, as children, killed or tortured animals Other research has shown consistent patterns of animal cruelty among perpetrators of more common violence, including child abuse, spouse abuse, and elder abuse. As educators, we must recognize that children who deliberately abuse animals—or talk about
animal abuse in the home—are crying out for help and need immediate attention.

What is animal cruelty?

The term “animal cruelty” is used to encompass a range of behaviors harmful to animals, from unintentional neglect to intentional abuse. Intentional cruelty is abuse by which a person knowingly deprives an animal of food, water, shelter, socialization, or veterinary care or maliciously kills, tortures, maims, or mutilates an animal. According to most state laws, failing to provide a pet with adequate food, water, and shelter or using physical force sufficient to leave a mark or otherwise cause injury constitutes cruelty to animals.

How can I tell the difference between innocent exploration and intentional animal cruelty?

Many children go through a stage of exploration during which they might harm insects or other small animals. With guidance from parents and teachers, most eventually develop empathy for animals and understand that they can feel pain. Still, some children persist
in harming or tormenting animals well past the age of curious exploration. Such behavior is seen more often in boys than in girls and may appear as early as age four. Without intervention, those children can become locked into a lifetime pattern of violent
behavior. It is particularly important to intervene when a child’s actions are motivated by a desire to harm (as opposed to simple curiosity), or a child continues to harm animals despite adult correction. These are signs that the child might be suffering from a
psychological problem, such as conduct disorder or psychopathic thought processes.

How can I find out if a child has witnessed or perpetrated animal cruelty?

A child who has witnessed animal cruelty might recount an incident that took place at home or in the neighborhood. Some abused children will not talk about their own experiences but will reveal what is happening to their pet. Abused children often “act out” their own experiences on pets or release their fear and frustration by harming
animals. A child who abuses animals sometimes boasts about it, either in conversation or in a story. Engaging children in storytelling, role playing, creative writing, or drawing can help you find out if a child is in distress. Other factors that coincide with childhood cruelty to animals can help you identify children at risk as well. Children who deliberately hurt animals typically have poor grades and tend to be more involved in bullying, vandalism, and more serious crimes, such as arson.

What should I do if I suspect a child has abused an animal? What should I do if a child reports that a family member has abused an animal?

Discuss your suspicions with a school team comprised of the principal, psychologist, and the law enforcement officer assigned to your school. Together, review the child’s behavior, including attendance, peer relations, and academic performance. Hold a parent/teacher/principal consultation and communicate your concerns and findings. Explain to the child’s parents why it’s necessary to alert authorities regarding animal cruelty. Report suspected animal cruelty to the humane investigator at your local animal welfare agency. If no such organization exists, report the incident to the police department. Based on the student’s history and your school’s findings, you may need to file a report with the local child protective services agency. Children who abuse animals are often
victims of abuse themselves or have witnessed domestic violence. If you suspect child abuse or neglect, report it immediately to your child protection agency. All states require this of teachers and provide reporting teachers with immunity. Document conversations and evidence and be ready and willing to testify in cases of abuse and neglect.

How else can I help break the cycle of abuse?

Educate others about the connection between animal cruelty and other violent crimes, including child abuse. Speak to your local PTA, child protective services agency, animal shelter, clergy, school counselor and psychologist, veterinarians, judges, police, and
others. Learn about violence prevention programs and coalitions in your area. Make your classroom a kind one. Teaching by example is a teacher’s most powerful tool. Your efforts to rescue a spider, feed birds, or start a collection for your local animal shelter will make
a lasting impression. Consider establishing a humane education program in your school that helps students develop empathy and compassion for people and animals.

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES

Through a rapist’s eyes.  A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interviewed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.
POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.
5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need
to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it
and it’s better to be safe than sorry..
Everyone should take 5 minutes to read this. It may save your life or
a loved one’s life.

Crying kids campaign angers gay activists

FLYERS featuring photos of crying children with slogans such as “I need my mum and dad” are being distributed as part of a campaign against same-sex marriage.

The flyers have angered gay activist groups who are outraged that children are being used to spread homophobic views on the eve of the election.

However, the lobby group behind the flyers say they are designed to bring children’s rights into the same-sex marriage debate.

The flyers are circulating in electorates in Queensland, NSW and Victoria and urge people to vote against Liberal, Labor and Independent candidates who support gay marriage.

A flyer circulating in the Brisbane-based seat of Moreton urges constituents to vote against incumbent Labor MP Graham Perrett, who has said he’s a supporter of gay marriage.

The flyer says: “When gay and lesbian marriage is taught in kindy and school, children will be led to believe that kids have no right to a mum and dad”.

Parents who disagree are “bigots,” the flyer says.

National spokeswoman for Parents Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, Shelley Argent, says the flyers are discriminatory and insulting.

“The flyers suggest that it is bad for children to be raised by same-sex couples, which I believe breaches anti-discrimination law,” she said in a statement.

“Same-sex couples and their families deserve the same support and respect as other couples, not this kind of denigration.”

The Australian Family Association (AFA) helped design artwork for the flyers, but says individual members paid for them.

AFA national spokeswoman Terri Kelleher said the lobby group was concerned that children’s rights had been “ignored” in the gay marriage debate.

“It’s quite clear – it’s about children’s rights. It’s the children who are being overlooked in this whole debate about the redefinition of marriage,” she said.

Teenagers put on airport watch lists to stop arranged marriages.

Girls as young as 14 are being forced to go overseas to marry older men and have their children. Parents tell their daughters they are being taken on holiday only for them to end up in arranged marriages.

One desperate teenager has been placed on an airport watchlist to stop parents smuggling her out of the country after she pleaded with her school counsellor for help. The 14-year-old told officials she was convinced her parents intended to marry her off to an older man. Another case in June last year involved a 14-year-old Iraqi girl who came back from overseas pregnant, but later miscarried. In some instances the marriages are used as a vehicle to allow men from overseas to come into Australia.

Women’s Minister Pru Goward has ordered an investigation into cases of forced marriage following a rising number of complaints being reported to school counsellors and community leaders.

Dr Eman Sharobeem, Director of the Immigrant Women’s Health Service, said she handled 15 cases of forced marriages involving teenagers in the past two years. “I have been receiving many inquiries, recently from school counsellors, about cases of young girls who have been coming forward saying they have been forced into a relationship or risk being sent overseas for the marriage to take place,” Dr Sharobeem said.

“It’s now visual – girls are coming forward saying, `help me, save me’. We did not have this before.” Dr Sharobeem said girls are often punished for confiding in anyone.

Dr Sharobeem, also sits on the NSW Domestic and Family Violence Council, said: “Every party is happy until the domestic violence starts, when the pressure starts on her body to bear children at a young age and many cases end up in divorce.”

A senior NSW government official said instances of children going absent from schools only to return as married women had been occurring for years. Ms Goward confirmed she had ordered an investigation into the matter, saying it was also possible that actual instances of forced marriages may be under-reported.

“I have given an instruction to investigate any suggestion forced marriages of Australian girls, either here or overseas, are on the increase,” Ms Goward said. “I am concerned after all the progress this country has made on gender equality that this sort of oppression of young girls could still be occurring. “My Department is aware of only a very small number of cases in the past five years. “It has been suggested to me that these cases may be under-reported and I think it’s very important everyone in the community understands their obligation to let the authorities know when they suspect a child might be at risk.”

One case presently being monitored by the Department of Families and Community Services came to their attention last year in relation to a forced marriage involving a teenager. The teenager was at risk of being married off several years ago and serious concerns are now being raised for the woman’s younger siblings. Reporting of forced marriages to authorities remains extremely low.

Dr Sharobeem said most young girls are afraid and confused, and are often punished severely for confiding in anyone about the issue. A school counsellor said the issue was well-known within schools in Sydney’s south west. “I’ve worked with one girl who was 17 and in DOCS care and they put a stop on her passport,” the counsellor said, referring to a case several years ago. “A lot of this happens outside the school, so unless they go to a counsellor or teacher they trust, we wouldn’t necessarily find out about them.”

UK report:Too much TV could harm children

I was stunned to read this report. I think the information here is something most parents new anyway from previous studies done. Funding for this study in my eyes is just a waste of funding.

CHILDREN are becoming increasingly anxious due to too much time in
front of TV and computer screens.

According to a British government briefing document from Public Health England, Inactive lifestyles are also to blame for the negative impact on children’s wellbeing.

It said higher levels of TV viewing were having a negative effect on children’s wellbeing, including lower self-worth, lower self-esteem and lower levels of self-reported happiness.

Children who spent more time on computers, watching TV and playing
video games also tended to experience higher levels of emotional
distress, anxiety and depression, it said.

Last week, a study found half of all seven-year-olds do not get
enough exercise – and girls are far less active than boys. Only 51 per cent of all seven-year-olds in the UK achieve the recommended hour of exercise every day, with the figure being just 38 per cent in girls compared with 63 per cent in boys. Half of this age group is also sedentary for an average of 6.4 hours or more every day, experts found.

The research, published in the online journal BMJ Open, found that
children of Indian origin and those living in Northern Ireland were
among the least physically active of all seven-year-olds.

The briefing paper was released to back a Public Health England
campaign urging parents to rethink their children’s eating and
exercise habits ahead of the new school term.

The Smart Restart campaign includes tips to reduce time in front of
TV, encourage walking to school and for pupils to have a healthy
lunch.

Teen Jailed over gay relationship.

We all got up in arms over the Homophobic laws in Russia there were even calls to boycott the winter Olympics. Then in country where you would least expect it Homophobia rears up in a way that makes me cringe. Would this have been such a big deal if it was not a same sex relationship?  Seriously now I know of cases where  a young man gets a slap on the wrist because he is 18 and the girl is 14 and both claim they are in love. Yet here we see Jail sentences etc. Smells like homophobia to me. If these girls love each other, well let them be they are not hurting anyone and you certainly can’t change someone and make them gay.

kaitlyn hunt

Kaitlyn Hunt an 18-year-old who sounds like your typical American teenager, is facing child abuse charges and two years imprisonment in her Florida home because of a consenting same-sex relationship she had with a 15-year-old peer which began when she was 17. Kaitlyn
was a cheerleader who had top grades, a trainee nurse and was a recipient of the ‘most school spirit’ award, sadly now everything has changed.

The charges against Kaitlyn are being pressed by the girlfriend’s parents and Kaitlyn’s family allege it is because they blame Kate for their daughter’s homosexuality.

Kelley Hunt Smith, Kate’s mother, said
“They were out to destroy my daughter, they feel like my daughter ‘made’ their daughter gay, They are teenagers in high school experimenting with their sexuality — with mutual consent. And even if their daughter is gay, who cares? She is still their daughter, These people never came to us as parents, never tried to speak with us … and tell us they had a problem with the girls dating.” adding that they went straight to police with the charges.

Last week, The Assistant State Attorney offered Kaitlyn a plea bargain, where she could plead guilty to the felony of child abuse and spend two years under house arrest plus one year of probation. She could also be placed on a sex offender register. That offer was revoked after revelations Ms Hunt had contacted the alleged victim almost daily since March 1. That contact included 20,000 text messages, 25 pictures and secret meetings, according to prosecutors.

Ms Hunt’s mother had tried to help her daughter cover her tracks.
‘Delete EVERYTHING,’ Smith wrote in a text message to the girl. ‘PLEASE delete everything and make sure NO ONE finds out you’ve spoken to Kate at all.’Court documents allege the two had sex as recently as July.

Kaitlyn was previously charged and jailed in February but was released after posting a $5000 bond. She is likely to face additional charges for breaking the terms of her bond at a hearing Tuesday.

Opinions about the case in her local community of Sebastian have become increasingly divided and has sparked a huge backlash since the family went public last week. The family, is hoping that the controversy will force the State Attorney to improve the plea offer.
Kaitlyn has until May 24 to decide whether she will accept the plea deal. If she does not accept the deal she will appear in court on June 20.